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A Four-Year-Old’s View of Love and Marriage

I spent the weekend with 6 nieces and nephews, ranging in
age from 6 weeks to 13 years. One four-year-old niece was particularly
interested in engaging me. I tried to warn her that I was terribly boring and
that I wasn’t good at playing with dolls. But she remained unfazed by my
late-night protestations.

“Auntie Val would you like some ice?” She said, presenting
one melting ice cube to me in her warm hand.

“Hmm… no, not really, thanks.” I mustered a smile hoping
that she wouldn’t feel rejected.

The little girl went on, “Well, my bed is full of soft
blankets so you should put on your jammies and we can go to sleep there. It
will be a lot of fun.”

“Ah… well, that’s very kind of you to offer, but I think I
need my teddy bear to fall asleep. Uncle Steve is my teddy bear.” I pointed at
my husband sitting next to me on the couch.

The little girl replied matter-of-factly, “No he’s not. He’s
your cake.”

“Um… well, that’s an interesting way to look at it.” I
replied awkwardly.

“You know, if you kiss uncle Steve then you’ll be married.”
She went on.

Steve immediately kissed me on the cheek and smiled

“No, you have to kiss her on the lips, uncle Steve.” The
little girl put her hands on her hips.

“Uh… well… Honey, would you like to marry me again?” I asked

“Why yes I would…” and Steve gave me a peck on the lips.

Then the girl squealed with glee and ran around the coffee
table one and a half times.

Does this buy me a second honeymoon?This post originally appeared on Dr. Val’s blog at

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5 Responses to “A Four-Year-Old’s View of Love and Marriage”

  1. PearlsAndDreams says:

    Oh the joy of being 4!!!

  2. PearlsAndDreams says:

    Oh the joy of being 4!!!

  3. selma says:

    Little girls!  What a blessing.  Mine was so full of spunk.  If they grew just a tiny bit slower…

  4. THIS IS CHRIS says:

    Well, I don’t know about a second honeymoon but your niece certainly has a bright future as a relationship counselor.

    Oh- and congrats on being best med weblog-  you deserve it.

    best,  chris

  5. C Coleman Brown MD says:

    well my now 6 year old got “married” to a classmate at age 5 after kissing each other! ive got my hands full, you can imagine. although, this could be the cheapest wedding i will ever pay for.

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